Ever take a moment to look around at what you have? It’s certainly not a daily or weekly practice for me, but when I do it changes me mentally and physically.
I start with the basics: air, water, food, and shelter. It’s 16 degrees outside with a couple inches of new snow as I write this and I can tell you I am grateful that my physical needs are met.
I don’t spend much time, at this point in my life, on the next level of Maslow’s hierarchy, safety needs. I spent 50 years planning and acting in accordance with my plans to insure my personal security, employment, resources, health, and property were taken care of. But when I do stop and reflect, I am grateful that I had some great mentors and friends who helped me along the way.
When I look at love and belonging I have to laugh at what a strange long trail it’s been. My initial relationship suffered from my unresolved issues. Luckily with help, I was able to right the ship once I learned to love myself. Much harder than I thought, I am very grateful I learned that lesson. I take joy in my family and friendships. And, I feel connected, a part of my new tribe – authors.
Esteem, especially self-esteem, was something I always struggled with. I was never good enough, so I faked it and used status and recognition to cover the cracks in my soul. Today I’m not that Steve. I’m just happy with myself Steve and the freedom of that gives me joy.
The final level of Maslow’s hierarchy is self-actualization – the desire to become the most that one can be. When you can see that all your other needs are taken care of, this is one amazing place to operate from.
Being retired, my goals are simple. Ensure our daughter-in-law and grandson are taken care of. And beyond that, enjoy life and become the best writer I can in the time I have left on the planet. I am grateful for the opportunity and the learning that comes from being a writer connected to so many wonderful authors.
Just my 2 cents, but taking time to reflect on all you have can bring an attitude of gratitude and joy to the most gray and ugly day.